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    Date / Time : Saturday, March 26, 2011 / 11:09 PM

    Addiction Recovery-How To Help A Loved One


    Author:

    One of the most tough situations anyone will face is attempting to assist a family member with their addiction. We tend to faced with the reality that the life of somebody we tend to love goes right down the rest room unless something is done. Since our addicted loved one doesn\'t appear to be doing anything, we tend to naturally feel the need to step in and bail them out. As noble as this looks, it\'s a recipe for disaster with most addicts. In this text, we\'ll navigate the dangerous waters of addiction to help you save the life of your beloved without drowning yourself.


    Nature Of Addiction: The basic nature of addiction could be a lie we addicts tell ourselves. Typically, we have a tendency to feel something is missing in us that makes us feel inadequate in some way. The lie we have a tendency to tell ourselves is that a drink or alternative substance or action can fill that void and make us feel whole, if solely temporarily. Sadly, the opening in us is ever expanding as we see ourselves more and additional captivated with a addictive substance to feel complete, so it takes additional of the substance to try to to what it did before. Unless a dramatic change takes place in the manner we addicts see ourselves, we have a tendency to / will go from one substance to a different to attempt and fill the vacuum our lives have become.


    Don\'t Believe A Word An Addict Says: It is not that your beloved desires to deceive you or allow you to down in any way. They hate it when that happens, despise themselves even more, in additional they would like their addictive substance even more, as a result. It\'s that the substance has become who they are. They feel the substance is essential to survival, so, when forced to form a selection between their loved one or their substance, most addicts choose their substance. As a result of of the need for the substance, the one talent addicts hone to perfection is the employment of deception and manipulation thus they can get a lot of of their substance. We have seen the love of countless family members be used against them and their higher judgment simply thus the addict will get a lot of it. If the one you love promises to quit/change, to induce employment, if you may 'help' them out just this once a lot of, don\'t believe it. Believe what they are doing, not what they say. If they voluntarily quit and check themselves into a program, have hope, but do not believe till you see a solid diary of clean and sober. After you insist on seeing solid proof, you\'re serving to your beloved perceive what it may take.


    Set Solid Boundaries: This is often where your facilitate is required most. By setting solid boundaries and being inflexible to their pressure, you show your addicted loved one how vital it is to measure at intervals those boundaries. Addicts are simply like spoiled children. They will pressure you with lies, tantrums, withholding love, no matter it takes to induce what they need out of you. Once they need it, you won\'t hear from them again till they have one thing else. If your boundary is solid, simply like a child, your addicted loved one can feel additional secure and additional loved. Clearly, the foremost vital boundary with an addiction is to quit. If you have got an acquaintance staying with you and there\'s no condition that they quit their addiction, you have got no boundary. If your loved one is not staying with you however asks for help every now and then, the boundary should be the same...quitting. It\'s not love to convey a kid everything it wants...it\'s abuse.


    To Help Them Do not Help Them: We have a tendency to\'ve heard from many family members who felt they weren\'t contributing to their loved one\'s addiction...simply helping them survive. As painful as it is, if you\'ve got a loved one therefore smitten by medicine or alcohol that they need your facilitate for food, clothes or housing, the worst thing you\'ll be able to do is offer those things to them. It makes it easier for them to be an addict. By serving to support them, we are enabling them to use whatever money they get from alternative sources to shop for their need. The only method we can facilitate them whereas they are using is to allow them to fall flat on their faces. Allow them to feel each bit of the pain and wretchedness their selections have brought them to. The a lot of pain they feel, the additional willing they will be to try to to what it takes to urge clean. We don\'t recognize where the 'bottom' is for our loved ones. This can be why the waters of addiction are treacherous. Typically, when you\'re making an attempt to save someone they pull you under.


    If we love them, we have a tendency to will not believe them, we tend to will set firm boundaries and we have a tendency to will not help them as long as they\'re abusing a substance. True love is expressed by doing and saying, not what your loved ones want, but what they need...even if it means losing their love.


    Fucking Wake Up La
    Date / Time : Thursday, June 3, 2010 / 4:03 PM

    I truly believed that even TILL NOW, u still dun admit to ur fucking mistakes.. n yet u still wanna turn the whole damn thing around!

    What is the WORST thing is that EVEN TILL NOW, u still dunno where I m coming from n still thinking that I kip on having the tot that maybe u did something with tat asshole as what u claim.

    Beb, U R FUCKING WRONG!

    Dun go around calling ppl the thief when u r the thief.

    If to u I m a faker by keeping quiet n dun go around broadcasting ur affair 1 year ago
    just becuz

    I treasure u as my friend, then go ahead n name me as a faker.

    If tat makes u happy.

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    Oh I also forgot tis point cuz u mentioned tat u have a selective memory loss.. oh ya ya ya... hw can i forgot about that theory of urs?

    mm.. no wonder..

    u can choose to remember what u wan to remember..

    If u said that u admit ur mistakes n know that u r wrong, y is it tat till now.. I have yet to hear or see any remorseful words nor actions.

    Telling others how sorry u r n etc is just only a way of gaining sympathy from others. When the fact is u dint even apologized to me.

    I really have to salute u.. for u r the greatest pretender existing on this earth.

    U want me to flare up to make me look like the one bullying u n then u will gain the upper hand of gaining sympathy from others,

    sorry i wont fall for it.


    But is ok la...

    Cuz not everyone is able to ALWAYS live in their own world n choose what they want to see, hear, smell or even remember.


    Guess What?


    These are the scariest ppl on earth..

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    Wat a day!!
    Date / Time : Wednesday, May 26, 2010 / 5:41 PM
    Previously, I totally had no idea that I won a SAMSUNG 40" 3D LED PLASMA TV, SAMSUNG BLUE-RAY DVD PLAYER, 2 PAIR OF 3D GLASSES thru a hidden lucky draw contest!

    The person-in-charge haf been looking for me for like almost 2 weeks!
    then finally i decided to pick up the phone!

    After a long awaited almost 2 weeks, my prize have finally arrived! Unfortunately I m going to sell away for my school fees!
    Wat a pity rite?

    Well, no choice... wat to do?!

    sigh..

    Anyway, look on the bright side! I dun have to worry about my school fees then..

    So for now, I need to look for a buyer!

    Anyone who is interested pls drop me a mail at: ling.wn@gmail.com

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    It has been quite a fruitful month for me, cuz I met up with all my ex-colleagues n feeding love to my ah bi n etc.

    I manage to do alot of catching up with Eelynn, kak Lina, Aidah n so on la...

    Kinda feels nice.. We have long chats continuously for 2 weeks n blah blah blah..

    Actually I realised that both me n one of them share a common story about friends.
    Quite a disappointing story.

    1 is weird n the other is a fake.
    But both share a common name: 'LOSER'

    How on earth can a 'supposedly-named-best-friend' friend treat us like a fool leh??

    This is one thing that both of us cannot understand at all!!!!

    Seriously, WE DUN!!!!!

    So now, I learned not to trust ppl so easily for they will take u as a puppet to play around with!

    For my side: U can go around n tarnish my reputation or bad-mouth abt me or even copy me, Cuz I dun care n for those who koe me inside out n outside in will jolly koe tat I m not tat kind of person!

    Just like what Sue n Mimi have said: Best friends are suppose to pick u up wherever u 'dump' them!

    Betul?

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    Ashamed...
    Date / Time : Sunday, April 18, 2010 / 4:09 PM

    Exam period is juz round the corner.. n I m like.. wateva...

    Tell u something interesting about yesterday at my workplace:

    It was a hot Sat morning when I started work, n down came the rain in the noon time. I lost a bet with my cook. He claimed that it wud definitely rain cuz is juz too hot. While on the other side I said otherwise. So end up I lost.
    Well tis is yet the main topic.

    Due to the super heavy rain, no new customers came. At tat point of time, there is this young chinese family waiting for the rain to stop before getting into their car which is directly parked infront of the bistro.
    The particular spot where the young dad parked his car is the turning curve of the road; i.e, no other cars can actually make a right turn cuz he has blocked the path.

    Out of nowhere, I heard a long honking of the car honk. Probably about 10 mins.. continuously honking. So I decided to walk out of the office n see what's going on.

    This lady who happens to be the boss of Kids Kampoung was the culprit for creating that honking hazzard. She was angry cuz she cant make a turn n nobody actually come and claim the car which was blocking her way.
    She continue to honk, hopefully someone wud claim n shift the bloody car away.

    It was raining profusely!!

    End up no choice, we have to shift our table inside in order to allow her to make tat turn. When everything is done, I tot the show was over so I went back into office.
    I came out of the office again to see wat happen cuz I heard shouting. So I tot what happen again.

    Tis time round, the owner of tat bloody car apparently have shifted his car. He tot he wont see that lady again, but he saw her walking towards him n starting shouting n stuff...
    Now, guess who is the owner of that bloody car?

    Is actually that young chinese family in the bistro who is waiting for the rain to stop!!!
    MY GOD!! I was thinking to myself tat, how can u bloody dun admit ur damn car when u r causing such a scene, yet u, ur young wife n ur 2 kids can watch the whole drama together with the others??!!!!

    Then when everything is done, then u came up discreetly to aknowledge ur car, hopefully wont see the lady... so who is the fool here??

    The fool is not the lady, is nobody but the young dad n his entire family!!!

    The lady asked him if he is aware of the honking noise that she make n etc. Guess what the young dad said?

    Well, he said oh.. sorry I dint koe it was my car that caused the obstruction.
    n
    I DIDNT HEAR THE HONKING NOISE!!!!

    Wat kind of lame stupid reason to give???

    When his whole family is standing next to me watching the lady behaving like a crazy woman??!!!!

    Both the wife n he himself can just pretended nothing happen.

    A
    fter tis incident, I m so sorry to say that I m ashamed of being a chinese...
    My god!!

    There is actually these kind of people exist in this world...


    If u jolly well koe that u have made a mistake come forward to clarify or clear it instead of pretending you dunno anything or nuthing have ever happen, n when is being exposed then u kanna caught red handed! By then u will be even more embarrassed cased by ur own mistakes.
    For wat??

    sigh....

    Well wat to do?

    1 type of rice can feed so many different kind of people.. isnt it??





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    Date / Time : Saturday, March 13, 2010 / 12:55 PM

    Sorry guys, haven been too hardworking in updating my blog lately.
    Promise tat u guys will be hearing my updates soon.

    BTW, CONGRATULATIONS to my dearest Ling-Mei. I m so excited and so looking forward to ur big day!!!

    hmph.... so who is next?
    keke..



    Date / Time : Wednesday, February 3, 2010 / 6:24 AM

    I just speechless, yet I want to burst out.

    But I dunno how.

    I need help.



    Lyrics of 12 Days Of Christmas!
    Date / Time : Friday, December 25, 2009 / 8:20 AM

    Do anyone still remember the time tat when back in poly days, during the lecture time in LT? The period is close to Christmas time.

    Remember wat we do just to kill the time when the lecturer is just so damn boring?

    We will go around asking people for the full song lyrics of this X'mas song - 12 days of Christmas!!!!!
    hahaha...
    It was like so funny!!
    At the end of the class, no one is able to fill in the whole paper!! hahaha...
    either was too confused about the exact sequence of wat comes wat first or is just tat on which day comes wat.

    Isn't it hilarious??

    Guess nowadays, we the young people dun really bother about all this things anymore la, rite? We just know roughly only! But not into really the details stuff.

    Well, just to clear the misunderstandings n the concepts. I found the correct n the exact lyrics to tat song which been trying to figure out.

    12 DAYS OF CHRISTMAS SONG LYRICS:

    On the first day of Christmas,
    my true love sent to me
    A partridge in a pear tree.

    On the second day of Christmas,
    my true love sent to me
    Two turtle doves,
    And a partridge in a pear tree.

    On the third day of Christmas,
    my true love sent to me
    Three French hens,
    Two turtle doves,
    And a partridge in a pear tree.

    On the fourth day of Christmas,
    my true love sent to me
    Four calling birds,
    Three French hens,
    Two turtle doves,
    And a partridge in a pear tree.

    On the fifth day of Christmas,
    my true love sent to me
    Five golden rings,
    Four calling birds,
    Three French hens,
    Two turtle doves,
    And a partridge in a pear tree.

    On the sixth day of Christmas,
    my true love sent to me
    Six geese a-laying,
    Five golden rings,
    Four calling birds,
    Three French hens,
    Two turtle doves,
    And a partridge in a pear tree.

    On the seventh day of Christmas,
    my true love sent to me
    Seven swans a-swimming,
    Six geese a-laying,
    Five golden rings,
    Four calling birds,
    Three French hens,
    Two turtle doves,
    And a partridge in a pear tree.

    On the eighth day of Christmas,
    my true love sent to me
    Eight maids a-milking,
    Seven swans a-swimming,
    Six geese a-laying,
    Five golden rings,
    Four calling birds,
    Three French hens,
    Two turtle doves,
    And a partridge in a pear tree.

    On the ninth day of Christmas,
    my true love sent to me
    Nine ladies dancing,
    Eight maids a-milking,
    Seven swans a-swimming,
    Six geese a-laying,
    Five golden rings,
    Four calling birds,
    Three French hens,
    Two turtle doves,
    And a partridge in a pear tree.

    On the tenth day of Christmas,
    my true love sent to me
    Ten lords a-leaping,
    Nine ladies dancing,
    Eight maids a-milking,
    Seven swans a-swimming,
    Six geese a-laying,
    Five golden rings,
    Four calling birds,
    Three French hens,
    Two turtle doves,
    And a partridge in a pear tree.

    On the eleventh day of Christmas,
    my true love sent to me
    Eleven pipers piping,
    Ten lords a-leaping,
    Nine ladies dancing,
    Eight maids a-milking,
    Seven swans a-swimming,
    Six geese a-laying,
    Five golden rings,
    Four calling birds,
    Three French hens,
    Two turtle doves,
    And a partridge in a pear tree.

    On the twelfth day of Christmas,
    my true love sent to me
    Twelve drummers drumming,
    Eleven pipers piping,
    Ten lords a-leaping,
    Nine ladies dancing,
    Eight maids a-milking,
    Seven swans a-swimming,
    Six geese a-laying,
    Five golden rings,
    Four calling birds,
    Three French hens,
    Two turtle doves,
    And a partridge in a pear tree...

    So, people r u guys all clear now? hahaha...
    In addition, I also have highlighted the main points also!! keke...
    Dun ever get confused anymore, aite???
    haha!!!

    Wishing u guys Merry Christmas n a Happy New Year!!!